You know those cartoons where the bright lights shine down from above and the opera sings “Hallelujah!!” in the background? That’s how I imagined finding my purpose would be.
Yeah, that never happened.
BUT when I found thought work, I learned that if I changed the way I thought about finding my purpose, that would change everything.
My before thought: I need to find my purpose or my life won’t be purposeful or meaningful.
It’s not like this thought was right or wrong. It just didn’t feel good to me. I felt heavy and pressured whenever I thought about it and that affected the way I approached my life. I stayed on the hunt for “that thing” with desperate energy. I compared myself to others, thinking something was wrong with me. I was miserable at work and at home.
My after thought: My life is purposeful by default AND I get to CHOOSE how I want to live it.
This thought wasn’t right or wrong either, but it felt sooo much better. I felt so much lighter because the pressure was gone. I didn’t feel like I needed to find anything. I get to be exactly who I am and decide what I want to do. Almost instantly, I saw coaching as an option. It’s not like I hadn’t heard about life coaching before, but I had never considered it an option for myself.
The difference in the feelings that came with each thought was like night and day.
However, I had believed my “before” thought for a LONG time so it was no easy feat to get my brain to believe anything different. Even though I liked the “after” thought so much better, my brain kept going back to the old thought. And I would start doing the same things and feeling miserable again. It took lots of practice and gentle reminders to myself that the old thought was no longer applicable to my life. I was intentionally choosing to think (and eventually believe) something different. By the time I fully believed the new thought, I was a life coach and I haven’t looked back since.
So now, what is it that YOU truly want to believe but it seems your brain wants to continue believing something else? Find a thought that feels good to you when you think it. Then practice that thought – say it to yourself, say it out loud, say it to others, write it down, whatever it takes. When you think the old thought, don’t get upset or frustrated it by it – it’s just your brain doing its job. Gently remind it of the new thought and keep it moving. Before you know it, you will think the new thought automatically (you’ll believe it) and you will be amazed at how your life changes as a result.
This is by far THE most powerful thing you can do for yourself. This one change will change your entire life. Try it out for yourself. If you need help, I’m here. Click the button below to schedule a call where we can see if we’re a good fit for each other. I want this so bad for you.
Gabrielle, The Thought Trainer