Soooo, we’ve talked about what questions to ask yourself when looking for your purpose and how to demand an answer from your brain when it tries to give you the oh-so-basic “IDK”. I recommend catching up on those posts before moving on to this one.
When you ask yourself the questions, something else that is likely to come up for you will be “There’s no way I can do that.” or “It sounds good but how will I do it?”
(BTW, have you ever noticed how negative your brain is? Like, why does it automatically question everything or look for the negative possibility in everything?
Brain: Ooh I’m excited about going to the festival this weekend!
Also Brain: What if it rains? Parking is gonna be a pain. I hope it’s not too crowded because traffic is gonna be horrible.
Brain: Let me post this picture on FB.
Also Brain: What if someone zooms in and sees my pimple? What if someone steals my picture and uses it for porn or something?
I mean, some are valid concerns but my goodness, we be on some “Brain Gone Wild” stuff most times though if we’re being honest. )
Anywho, I digress.
You will want to know the HOW in order to BELIEVE you can do it. Bad News Alert: you won’t know the HOW until after you have done it. As humans who want to protect ourselves from “danger” (i.e., failure and hurt), we want to have proof that what we do will work before we actually do it. But there’s no way to do that. It’s like walking through a maze: you proceed until you run into a wall, then you back up and go a different way and repeat until you get to the end. It’s not until you get to the end that you know how you did it. You wouldn’t have known how to get out of the maze before you started, right?
Be OK with not knowing the HOW and with not really believing it at this point. When trying to find your purpose, it’s more important to focus on the WHAT. It’s like doing a brain dump of everything that it could be without thinking about the details or judging yourself for any “crazy outrageous” ideas/dreams you might have.
I know it may be hard to wrap your brain around this, but just CONSIDER the possibility that I could be right. What would your brain dump of possible purposes look like if you let it all out? Tell me in the comments.
If you’re struggling with this process, I know what you’re going through. But I’ve done it, so I now know the HOW. ? Let me help you. Request a FREE mini-session here.
Gabrielle, The Thought Trainer