My daughter had been struggling in her Spanish class. I had been communicating with the teacher while also trying to help her as much as I could at home. She finally aced one of her assignments and was so proud of herself. After seeing her grade on the computer, she wanted to share the great news with her teacher. The teacher barely noticed and did a quick “Ok, good. Now go shut down your computer” and shooed her away. That dampened her excitement and she was no longer as proud of herself.
We’ve all been there. We get some good news about an accomplishment (big or small) and we’re so excited to share it with our friends and family, but when we do, they are not nearly as excited as we are about the news. So then our accomplishment doesn’t seem nearly as exciting anymore.
And if you’re anything like me, those people who didn’t respond “the right way” will be left off the list for sharing good news with the next time. Hmph! ?
However, what really matters is that we have our own back no matter what. Ultimately, it is what we think of ourselves and our accomplishments that determines how we show up in our lives.
So when you feel your spirit dampening as someone “rains on your parade”, remind yourself that their response has nothing to do with you. Just like you’re responsible for not making their lack of excitement mean anything negative about you, they’re responsible for not making your good news mean anything negative about them.
Either way, just like I told my daughter, it doesn’t matter what her teacher or anyone else thinks or how they respond. You don’t need their kudos. All that matters is that you showed up the way you wanted to, gave it your all, and you’re proud of yourself for it.
Clap so hard and loud for yourself that you can’t possibly hear whether others are clapping or not.
If you’re struggling to stay consistent with your goals because you’re not getting the kudos you need, I can help you. Schedule a free mini-session and let’s figure it out together.
Gabrielle, The Thought Trainer