That was the question that was holding me back.
I wanted to leave my business card or a flyer at the gym to advertise my business, but I had all the reasons why I shouldn’t ask the front desk if I could do it. They all boiled down to, “What if they reject me?” So I made myself answer that. Here was my convo:
Drama Me: I’ll feel shame.
Coach Me: Ok, I get that. But you’ve felt shame before, right?
Drama Me: Yes, of course.
Coach Me: It wasn’t the end of the world, right? It was just a short-lived sensation in your body and then it was done. You’re still alive and well, yes?
Drama Me: True.
Coach Me: So is there a chance that they could say yes if you asked?
Drama Me: Yep, it’s possible.
Coach Me: Is there a chance that they could say yes if you don’t ask?
Drama Me: *Crickets*
Basically I was rejecting myself before anybody even had a chance to reject me!
Listen! I’m the LAST one who needs to be rejecting ME! That’s craziness.
But in the moment, it feels so real to us, right? I get it. We are terrified of rejection. It doesn’t feel good. But when it comes down to it, we are willing to hold ourselves back and miss out on all that God has for us because we are terrified of a temporary sensation in our bodies. That’s what it boils down to.
Let’s stop doing that to ourselves so we can get out here and live this life to the fullest. We only get one shot!
BTW, I asked the front desk this morning. Let’s just say that one person wanted two business cards for herself and my information is now hanging in the lady’s locker room at the gym. ?
And yes, I still have to coach myself. Each and every day. And I’ll teach you to do the same. When you’re ready, I’ll be here.
Gabrielle, The Thought Trainer